Remembering flashbulbs and fictions

Like most people past early childhood on September 11, 2001, I remember exactly where I was when I heard: in the car. The news was too bizarre and my brain went straight to disbelief, assuming an oddly timed War of the Worlds sort of broadcast. I pumped gas and, when...

The healing power of a harmless untruth

Live by the foma* that make you brave and kind and healthy and happy. *Harmless untruths ― Kurt Vonnegut Steve said, “I don’t know. I really don’t. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and...

Idiots and maniacs are everywhere

“Have you ever noticed, when you’re driving, that anyone driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone driving faster than you is a maniac?”       – George Carlin, philosopher (he was also very funny) A few weeks ago, I got a call from a loved one in the midst...

The whole person wearing all the hats

There’s a fella named Tom. I met him last September in a parking lot of a box store to exchange a little bit of cash money for three hulking shelves he had once built but no longer needed. Our brief chat in that parking lot led to a brief email exchange, one I would...

The Best Friends Don’t Sugar Coat

Earlier this year, I was sitting in meditation. I’d like to say that was an unremarkable happening; there have certainly been long stretches in my life where meditation has been a daily practice, fit into the building blocks of an average day. It has been a while...

Retroactively Obvious

I never thought to trim the lower branches of a magnolia tree to create a canopy covering a bare trunk until I saw one on a brief road trip recently. Once I saw one, I saw them everywhere, including on a later drive back to my hometown, a drive I’ve made hundreds of...

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