The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
Lumpy, Hairy Meat Sacks: A First Step to Releasing Self-Loathing
Whatever it is that animates us – and after millennia of religion, philosophy, and science, I have no desire to so much as take a swing at the how of human essence – the bit that allows us to extrovert that animation – that which is being animated – is, as many have...
My dog tried to break me last Tuesday
Right now, at this very moment, which is 6:54 am on Tuesday, April 27, 2021, our dog is laying in the hallway in front of my office, her bushy tail spilling through the doorway. She has been doing some combination of barking, whining and huffing for going on an hour...
The expansive benefit of cheap hotdogs and higher wages
A conversation in the newly-formed LinkedIn group, The Bigger Badder Conversation, had me thinking over the weekend about my staunchly held and often mulled belief that the truly beneficial acts are inevitably beneficial far beyond the enactor, and vice versa – that...
Understanding Not Required
The weather was beautiful this past weekend which made it a ripe time for visits with family and friends. Saturday, we ate on the patio of a restaurant owned by friends, a married couple who also runs a farm together. I ran several businesses with my former spouse so...
Like a record, baby: Right ‘round, ‘round, ‘round
Here’s the scene: It’s Saturday morning. Theresa and I are standing between rows of records in a house that has been converted into a hi-fi and electric guitar shop by a man who has just given us what felt like the full semester of Music Equipment 101. He’s now...
The Physics of Rage
Divine rage is fierce, disciplined, and visionary…The aim of divine rage is not vengeance but to reorder the world.– Valarie Kaur in See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto on Revolutionary Love This feels like a particularly scary time in history to be exploring...
For the love of disruption
I have a challenge for you this week: Answer the question “How are you?” honestly. I know, I know. The correct response, the expected response, the comfortable response for everyone involved is, “Fine, thanks; you?” And then the other person says, “Fine” or “Good” or...
The Moldy Maraschino of Selflessness
A bunch of years ago, back during my first marriage, there was this one particular visit with his family. My then-hubby was a little ramped up about it, as many of us can get in the run-up to a visit that evokes a complexity of feelings. I got a little ramped...
Big Emotions and Bad Behaviors
Theresa and I are streaming a show that can be summarized as what a soap opera would look like if made by the production crew at Hallmark. Honestly, I pick on it mercilessly and then I easily go back for more. Like I said, soap opera qualities. In a recent episode, a...
Falling in love is so 1993
A client recently described to me the difference between falling in love and rising in love, a concept she had seen on a cleverly worded social media post. It rang as true in my heart as in hers, that falling in love is gravity, it is easy, it is effortless. It...