The (Freaked Out) Farmer and the Horse

There’s an old Zen story that gets a lot of traction in the world of personal development. You’ve probably heard it before. It goes a little something like this: See, there’s this farmer in this village. He’s got this horse who is integral to his ability to run his...

Bucking body positivity

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. – Carl Rogers While there was most certainly a time in my life before I felt body-consciousness – abundant stories and even a few photos testify to my joyful aversion to clothes...

Radical Acceptance and Leg-Chewing Varmints

My ankles are covered in bug bites. It’s such a little thing. Literally: They’re tiny little crested mounds of bug-inflicted ick. In the scheme of things: These, though I don’t know what caused them, will lose their potency in days and fade back into plains of...

Remembering flashbulbs and fictions

Like most people past early childhood on September 11, 2001, I remember exactly where I was when I heard: in the car. The news was too bizarre and my brain went straight to disbelief, assuming an oddly timed War of the Worlds sort of broadcast. I pumped gas and, when...

The healing power of a harmless untruth

Live by the foma* that make you brave and kind and healthy and happy. *Harmless untruths ― Kurt Vonnegut Steve said, “I don’t know. I really don’t. All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and...

Idiots and maniacs are everywhere

“Have you ever noticed, when you’re driving, that anyone driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone driving faster than you is a maniac?”       – George Carlin, philosopher (he was also very funny) A few weeks ago, I got a call from a loved one in the midst...

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