The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
One Strategy to Rule Them All
Last week, I shared an abbreviated version of the keynote on navigating change that I gave at the Council of Community Services annual lunch. Friends, that was one engaged and fun audience! (Side note: If you’ve never done any public speaking, let me assure you that...
Dropping Shoulds and Leaning into Coulds: Navigating Change
The title of this post is the title of the keynote address I’m giving this very day during the annual meeting of The Council of Community Services. I thought it would be fun to share a seriously edited version of the talk with you today, parsed down to the bones....
You are the Batman you’ve been waiting for
"There's no Batman coming to clean things up." For the last couple of weeks, I had been thinking about why people so often don't use their right to vote and I kept bumping up against perfectionism disguised mostly as cynicism. This fella that Theresa and I spoke with...
When We acts as a reminder of Me
“To love someone is to learn the song in their heart and sing it to them when they have forgotten.” - Arne Garborg Early Sunday morning, I sent a text to my friend Bryan. Like most people, I have some resistance to leaning into our web of...
Sore Muscles, Warm Hearts
My go-to social media outlet these days is Instagram. Saturday evening, I was stretched out on the bed of the Days Inn room where Theresa and I spent our weekend, scrolling through my feed. "Anything good?" she asked me. My feed, though filled with artists and dancers...
Good idea/bad idea?
My first business was a personal chef service that I started after dropping out of a community college culinary program. I learned a lot about how to start and run a business and I learned that cooking was not a passion I liked doing as a career. I closed the business...
Making the outside of the closet safer
Thursday is the 30th annual National Coming Out Day, a day that was founded to raise awareness of the LGBTQ+ community. And we still need that awareness-building, especially in the realm of the broad and beautiful spectrum that is gender identity. Despite my many...
The Inevitably Incomplete Life
Earlier this year, I wrote a little about the Tibetan meditation on death. It's a way of focusing on the inevitable end of these lives such that we bring a greater appreciation and presence to the now. When I do this meditation, I tend to notice the beauty of my...
Thank you for your precious, limited time
Each Monday, I publish a new blog post and I ask you for the most precious thing you have: Some of your time. If you are reading this, you've granted me this biggest of asks. You're taking a moment to consider the words that I put down for you, the thoughts and ideas...
Knowing you’re great doesn’t make you a narcissist
During a recent evening of errands, I suggested adding a bookstore to our stops. I had recently listened to Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates through the library's app and, for all the reasons of access and putting my money where my heart is, I wanted to...