The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
What I Learn When I Turn Off My Phone
Last year, I wrote about the one big, bad misconception on meditation. Spoiler: The misconception is that meditation is about clearing your mind to 100% blank space. Brains are made for thinking; at least, the part we’re conscious of. Instead, meditation is about...
Birthday Presence
Little adventures have become my focus on birthdays in recent years. Two years ago, Theresa and I went stand-up paddleboarding. Last year, we did our first ropes course. This year? We took on the hike to McAfee Knob. Context: McAfee Knob is the most photographed spot...
When the Boulder of Productivity Threatens to Flatten Us
I was a pill last week. Not 100% of the time, but enough that I wasn’t enjoying my own company. Wednesday night, as we were getting ready for bed, Theresa said something about how much we’ve been trying to do lately, that it’s been nonstop. And I felt two parts of me...
A Bigger Swath of Representation
As LGBTQIA+ Pride month begins… As Ramadan ends… As Juneteenth approaches… …a quick note to encourage you to branch out beyond your comfort zone and into a place of deeper and greater exposure. Representation Matters is a slogan because we believe that what we, as...
How to Give Great Compliments
One of the many wonderful things about sharing a life with Theresa is that she came packaged with an adorable bear cub of a dog named Kiera. As I write this, this pup is laying on the floor behind me, snoring. She may or may not be asleep; she snores regardless, a...
When a Kid Gives a Compliment, Listen.
My mom, Theresa and I had just walked into a snazzy consignment shop in our neighborhood when a little girl – the grandchild of the shop’s owner, I think – looked up at me with her hair pulled into two buns like Mickey Mouse ears and said, “I like your hair!” She was...
Who are Your People? A Clear and Concise Answer, Please.
Remember my post a couple of weeks ago where I suggested focusing on asking questions and then really, truly listening while networking? Just about 100% of the time I have a networking one-on-one with someone, I ask, “How can I be helpful to you? Who is your ideal...
I Gave Myself Permission to Bomb
I have a somewhat unusual comfort with public speaking. I once walked into a conference with almost no understanding of what the organizers wanted me to do and hopped on the stage in front of a couple of hundred people with hardly a skipped heartbeat or extra drop of...
Listening for the Good Stuff
It is rare that a working day goes by when the topic of networking doesn’t come up. As one client recently quoted back to me, “Opportunity comes in the shape of other people.” Apparently, I said that. And I truly believe it – I believe it about all kinds of...
Your Growth is Off-putting, Pal
A recent coaching conversation accessed an old memory and floated it to the surface of my mind. It was of a long-ago friend, someone I met at work during what is now referred to as a gap year. “You’ve changed since you started college,” she said to me a couple of...