The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
When Networking Turns into Pillow Talk (and Back Again)
If you’ve been reading my blog for any amount of time, you know I return to networking time and again. It’s the most powerful tool we have to develop our biggest lives and baddest careers because we live in a web of interconnection; that is, opportunities come in the...
The Uncomfortable and Exhilarating Act of Asking for What We Want
I don’t know if it’s apocryphal or literal, but there’s a story I once heard about the founder of the life coaching profession, Thomas Leonard. According to the story, he loved a standing ovation after he gave a talk, and he got one every time. Was it because he was...
The Wisdom, the Flex, and the Food
Yesterday, Theresa and I spent a handful of hours cooking together. She prepped salad fixings and veggies to dip in hummus; I roasted off some other veggies, made the hummus, and threw together a batch of soup to join the one already in the freezer for quick, easy...
Schedule like Gumby
Most weeks, I talk with people who are drunk on the flexibility of self-employment. It’s a type of intoxication that I know well; hell, it’s an intoxication I shaped my early professional life around. Going to the grocery store in the middle of a weekday is, to me,...
Resolve to Re-Start
Babe Ruth had a batting average of .342. This is a very good batting average, well above average in baseball. This very good batting average is essentially saying that Babe Ruth hit (without fouling) roughly one third of the balls pitched to him. One third. 1/3. Which...
Revealing the Invisible Ink of Our Gradual Growth: A Year End Practice
When I was a teen, I got stress headaches. Not every so often but multiple a day for several years. And then one day, I realized that it had been a while since I had had one. A long while. They had departed so gradually that I hadn’t noticed the progression, even...
Gift Budgets and the Pain of Uncertainty
Last week, I messaged Theresa from the aisles of a store: “How much trouble will I be in if I go a little over our gift budget?” On this, our third holiday season together, Theresa and I set a $50 gift budget based on the idea that we both have what we need and much...
“I am brown and you are peach,”: More Wisdom from the Youngest Among Us
“I am brown and you are peach.” Last month, I sat at a table at a community dinner and listened to a 5th grader tell this story of a conversation – confrontation, really – she had in 1st grade. She didn't tell us what led up to the teacher's insistence that the...
When Netflix Nurtures and When It Numbs
I cancelled dinner with friends on Saturday. I spent the morning feeling gross in a way that I’m pretty sure had to do with a combo of sinus pressure and nasal drip and then finally decided to send the text early afternoon with my apologies. I asked Theresa to join me...
Unfortunately/Fortunately: A Perpetual Gratitude Practice
Next Sunday will mark the 3rd anniversary of the death of a man I always called Daddy Harold. I was in my 20s when I realized not everyone called him that. In fact, the only people who called him that other than me were my mom and his wife, and only when they were...