The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
The Innerlings’ sneaky contribution to self-love
One of the analogies that I like to use when helping people work with their Innerling voices draws a line between those fearful inner voices (and Innerlings are often working from fear, albeit often expressing that fear in creative ways) and a little kid who has...
My mug-shaped reminder of our impact
During a recent video-based coaching session, my client prompted me to show off the hand-made mug I was drinking tea from. I love this mug: Its bulbous body tapers toward the top, offering both a big space for lots of tea and a shape that keeps it hotter longer. Its...
My pre-travel melt-downs: A new tack
A few Fridays ago, I wandered around Earth Fare, waiting until Theresa could take a short break for a short visit before I left for a short trip to see my mom. I’d be gone fewer than 30 hours. And yet I was wound up, antsy, anxious to get on the road, impatient as all...
3 Untrue Things
Untrue things we, as a society, like to believe: Fairness exists, including reward for merit and punishment for misdeed. With enough work, we can banish all of our negative feelings and leave ourselves filled with only sunshine and unicorn kisses. (Not only that we...
Checking the Distance Between Your Money and Your Mouth
Three quick stories about money: A British coach living in France recently agreed to give me a one-off coaching session; I had read her book, Quantum Skills for Coaching, and reached out to her via LinkedIn. When I asked how much to pay her and how to get the money to...
Finding Relief in Responsibility
I’m working on a theory and I’d like to hear your thoughts. My theory: The stickiest, ickiest memories linger because we haven’t resolved our own responsibility (or perceived responsibility) in the situation. Let me illustrate with one sticky, icky memory with which...
There are Countless Routes to Biggest and Baddest
My inconclusive ramble of a post exploring my relationship – now and in the future – with social media evoked not only more responses than I expected, but responses that were more emphatic than I expected. Some people responded with absolutely encouragement of bailing...
Always More Questions than Answers with Social Media
Last week, I deleted the Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook apps from my phone. I didn’t delete or close the accounts themselves; I just made them less immediately accessible to myself. I wanted to write about it, to explain why I’m exploring an even bigger move away...
I’m Self-Involved
I’m actually a little sheepish to share this one which, I guess, is a sure sign that I'd best go forth. Last week, Theresa and I attended a community event that involved a dinner. We stood in line with a person I had seen here and there but never spoken with so I made...
3 Questions to Transform Problems into Opportunities
I learned the coolest thing last week… and then with a three-minute fact check learned it wasn’t true. The thing? The Mandarin symbol for “crisis” is not a combination of the words “danger” and “opportunity.” That was built on wishful thinking of the...
