The Blog
Here’s where I share thoughts on the work of moving toward our biggest lives and baddest selves.
The Messiest Guffaw
That discomfort comes bundled with change doesn’t change that smiles – even laughter – can be there, too.
The Best Friends Don’t Sugar Coat
If gremlins are the “friends” who tell you that your face would be so pretty if only… then your wiser inner voices are the friends who say, “You should absolutely go for that job! Now, let’s practice your interview skills, polish your resume, and find you an empowering outfit.”
No Delete Buttons for History
There’s a fear that when a relationship ends, we’ll erase all that was good about it before – or that if we revisit our history with honesty, we’ll have release our pride in place and self. We, our relationships, and our world, are so much more complex than that.
Retroactively Obvious
So often, things seem so obvious after we see them – and yet without curiosity, we can’t see these retroactively obvious things, and without self-compassion, we can’t allow for the human imperfection of learning.
Expecting discomfort and making room for joy
Last year, I made a note to myself on today’s calendar date. It says, “Expect discomfort, make room for joy.” Today is my birthday. Before you go assuming that the expected discomfort is about the number of times I’ve spun around the sun – today marks 43 years since I...
If life is a bowl of cherries, wholeness includes the pits
After a long while of wishing my wholeness and the wholeness of the world could include good bits, the happy bits, I finally came to understand the obvious truth, that wholeness is ALL of it.
Networking: A Connection between Actual People
Networking. Over nearly eight years of coaching, with a goodly number of clients being professionals or business owners, I have found that roughly 85-90% of clients react to the word “networking” with anything from shuffling avoidance to full-on cringe. Then there’s...
Lumpy, Hairy Meat Sacks: A First Step to Releasing Self-Loathing
Whatever it is that animates us – and after millennia of religion, philosophy, and science, I have no desire to so much as take a swing at the how of human essence – the bit that allows us to extrovert that animation – that which is being animated – is, as many have...
My dog tried to break me last Tuesday
Right now, at this very moment, which is 6:54 am on Tuesday, April 27, 2021, our dog is laying in the hallway in front of my office, her bushy tail spilling through the doorway. She has been doing some combination of barking, whining and huffing for going on an hour...
The expansive benefit of cheap hotdogs and higher wages
A conversation in the newly-formed LinkedIn group, The Bigger Badder Conversation, had me thinking over the weekend about my staunchly held and often mulled belief that the truly beneficial acts are inevitably beneficial far beyond the enactor, and vice versa – that...